If you can’t see Jesus, be Jesus.
In our journey through life, we have an essential choice to make: will we be saints – making our world, our families, our communities havens of love and life – or… will we succumb to the tyranny of the culture of death and relativism? “I have set before you life and death, the blessing and the curse.” It is the same today. Francis de Sales, who lived in times and in a place that for the previous 60 years had rejected its Catholic roots and strove to destroy its culture, insisted that this choice between life and death, between egotism and worldliness; or loving God and each other is the most important choice of our life. As he wrote, “All Christian wisdom lies in making the right choice here.”
What did our saint do to help others over these troubled waters of the seventeenth century when Catholic churches were ravaged and Catholic homes were ransacked? First, he changed his own heart. He lived to the max the only maxim that Jesus told everyone to learn, “Learn from me for I am meek and humble of heart.” Francis, the ardent Savoyard born into an ancient family of fighting nobility, became the meek and humble Francis, the gentleman saint. Sent into the (almost) entirely Calvinist Chablais region as a newly-ordained priest, he waged a spiritual war for their conversion. How? By teaching them the truth, speaking heart-to-heart, and …by charity.
The results? After one year of tireless preaching to all-but-empty churches: one convert. But after four years, he had set up an infrastructure to support the faith-life of 72,000 re-converted Catholics. The entire region – after four years of tireless preaching; rebuilding a few ruined churches; recruiting more missionary priests; organizing pilgrimages, processions, and missions; debating with Calvinist preachers; writing and distributing pamphlets; talking for hours with potential converts; being kind and charitable to all; avoiding wolves, weather and would-be assassins; begging for funds – was (almost) entirely Catholic.
Francis de Sales lived the “Spirituality of Communion” outlined by Saint John Paul II in Novo Millenio Inuente (Art.#43) and Francis’ words and example can guide us to becoming “bridges over troubled waters” for our own twenty-first century. How? First, by changing our own hearts. “Oh God, how I wish that our Savior’s heart will be King of all our hearts!” he exclaimed in one of his many letters of spiritual direction. To love and to be loved without limit. This is the deepest desire of every human being. It is God’s first call to holiness to every person without exception. When love becomes the source of our actions, our heart becomes the place of encounter with the God of love. When we change our own hearts to be meek and humble: welcoming, listening, and without prejudice, then we can be the catalyst for another’s conversion. Conversion comes from the inside, from the heart. This is the only way.
Second, we must become experts in the spirituality of communion. This demands some essential shifts in our thought paradigms. How deeply we must be imbued with the realization that every single person is made in the image and likeness of the Trinitarian God! We are all children of God. How often we have heard this. How seldom, in the crunch of “every-man-for-himself” do we live it! Francis, in his Treatise on the Love of God, Book 10, Chapter 11, tries to let us see the reality from above. He relates the story of Tobias, the adult son of exiled Tobit, who goes to the home of his father’s kinsman Raguel for the first time. Raguel, seeing this young man, rushes to fall upon his neck, weeping with joy and embracing him. How much he resembles his father! Francis then writes: “Hey, true God, Theotimus, when we see a neighbor created in the image and likeness of God, should we not say to one another: do you not see this creature, how much she resembles the Creator? Should we not throw our arms around her neck, embrace her and weep out of love for her? Should we not give her thousands and thousands of blessings?” Hold it! What about so-and-so??? But Francis continues, “for love of her? No, certainly, for we do not know if she is worthy of love or hate in and of herself. And why, then? …for the love of God who has formed her in his image and likeness.” We love our neighbor (and ourselves) for the exact same reason. God made us. In his image. Made in love and for love. We are his children. Brothers and Sisters. All.
The next step towards becoming experts in the spirituality of communion is to probe the depths of the meaning of belonging to the mystical body of Christ. “No man is an island, entire in himself,” John Donne wrote. Each of us is a part of the continent, a piece of the whole. We are not alone, nor are we meant to be alone. Others are a part of me, and I of them. Together we are one person. St. Francis de Sales, speaking to his Visitandines, said, “One of the principal fruits of religious life is this holy union which is formed by charity, a union of such a nature that there is only one heart though made up of many, and only one body though composed of many members. In religious life all are so made one, so that all the religious of one Order are but one single religious.” (Conference 16) He went so far as to say that the only thing that he could not tolerate was to see disunion among the monasteries. In religious life or out of it, we are all one. Realizing our dignity as children of God and the reality of the mystical body of Christ, we can then learn to see what is positive in others. Everyone is a gift for me and I for them. When we can really see this, another Francis (our current pope) says: “Everything depends on the way we look at things, on the lens we use to view them. If we change that lens, reality itself appears different. So how can we begin to ‘read’ reality through the right lens? For us Christians, that lens can only be the good news, beginning with the Good News par excellence: the Gospel of Jesus Christ, Son of God… The Kingdom of God is already present in our midst like a seed that is easily overlooked, yet silently takes root. Those to whom the Holy Spirit grants keen vision can see it blossoming.” (Pope Francis, Message for World Communications Day, Jan. 24, 2017) When we see the strengths of others and appreciate them, there is much room for the work-a-day synergy that accomplishes great things, and also for the spiritual synergy that solves problems in creative dialogue and respectful encounters.
Finally, in this spirituality of communion comes the ability to make room for others, that ability to “bear one another’s burdens”. (Gal. 6:2) This demands listening to those with whom we disagree – without judging – patiently walking with them as a friend, waiting for God to act in their hearts. Instead of being spiritual GPS’s, overly-eager to guide every soul to spiritual maturity by our brilliant directions for their life’s journey, we can have compassionate hearts, non-judgmental, flexible hearts. And we can pray. Didn’t our Savior promise that if we had faith the size of a mustard seed, we could move mountains? Pray, and not worry. Pray and love. As Francis de Sales says, “Flexible hearts do not break.” But some of our hearts are broken. Waiting for children to come back home. Waiting for family rifts to end. Waiting for life to be respected from conception to natural death. Waiting for peace. Waiting for addictions to be overcome. Waiting for his kingdom to reign in others’ hearts as well as in our own.
Francis did not give up in the Chablais. He kept his heart open and this is what he advises us to do: “Keep your heart open wide and, so long as the love of God is your sole desire and his glory your only wish, always live joyously and courageously.” Can we do this for others? For ourselves?
Let’s be brave. Let’s be bridges. Everyone is waiting for us.